Many people tell me how brave I am. How incredible I am. I agree – but for different reasons. I think we are all brave and incredible, actually.
And when times are revolting, I reach out to others.
It’s all a decision. It really is. I chose life and love. I still do…
Last night I was out, chatting to a doctor, and he commented that what we share in common is that we are both healers – we help others. I disagreed. I said, “I support others to help themselves”.
You see, my beautiful, truth is that’s really what it’s all about. We need to help ourselves. And sometimes we don’t want to hear or acknowledge that. I’m not saying that you need to be Super Woman, take on the world and your shadows all at once and bash through alone.
What I am saying is that for change to happen in your life, you have to recognize your contribution to what’s going on, accept responsibility, and actually make some changes.
I know just how many times I have denied myself the best life because I preferred to play the victim. Confession: sometimes I still do. But then awareness or a loving, honest friend steps in and I get a good kick in the butt. I own my crap. I make plans. I forgive myself. I hook onto my magic, sparkly side – and I move forward as a creator of destiny – mine and others’.
The Jewish festival of Hanukkah is approaching this weekend. The Hindu celebration of lights, Diwali, has recently past. Christmas with the promise of what lies beneath a bright, twinkling star is around the corner. Light, Light, Light. The ignition of that spark in darkness.
I went to an outstanding talk this week and here’s what I want to share with you from it:
A candle – wick and wax. No light – latent potential. Only when we light it, does it emit light. When you create, when you ignite your candle, when you take action, your spark will transform into a glow – a light unto so many.
And that light glows brightest against the contrast of darkness.
You and I are obliged to create. We really are. We have been blessed with Life. Potential. Beauty. Wholeness.
We have also been blessed with circumstances to recognize those magnificent qualities.
The darkness – be it loneliness, abuse, weight or health challenges, divorce, loss – whatever – can be embraced. If you choose.
Or…. You can choose to be a victim, blame and waste your life… your candle.
If there’s one thing this blog can do I hope it’s to inspire you to go within and look at where you are playing the victim in your life.
- Where are you creating dramas in your life?
- Where are you making excuses?
- Where are you blaming?
- Where are you refusing to accept responsibility?
You are incredible. You are brave. The question is… Will you choose to be?
And here’s a challenge that I’m sharing with my clients:
Light a candle every morning for eight days. As you light it, embrace another aspect of your Self or a circumstance in your life that you’ve shamed or rejected – and bless it.
From my light to yours xxxxxxx
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If you are ready for change, I am ready for you.